Saturday, May 18, 2013

We might make the plans BUT...

We might make the plans, but God always determines the outcome.  It is God that determines if something we have planned for will happen or not.  Such is the case with our foster care journey.  For the last 2 years we have been planning and preparing for what we thought was God's will.  For whatever reason God has closed this door.  Last week we got the letter stating that we were not a good fit for foster care in the county's eyes. 

There reasons were as follows: We homeschool and the special needs of our daughters would make it difficult for us to parent a foster child. 

Now these reasons we could have taken if they had not known this two years ago!!  They knew both of these things before we started this process.  We are hurt and understandably angry!  We ask the question why would God allow us to go through this if we were going to be turned down?  We may never know the reason. 

Our caseworker told us over and over again we were a perfect fit as foster parents because of our background.  I also do not want any part of an organization that will lie to me over and over.  Because being dishonest goes against everything we believe.  So perhaps God removed us because of something bigger than we will ever know.

We have been asked over and over again if we are going to fight it.  My answer to that is No!  I mean think about it, would you want to try and fight Social Services?  We most certainly do not want to give them any reason to barge in here anytime they like without being foster parents.  So at this point we are just praying that God will direct us.  It was also brought to our attention that perhaps someone within the foster care department has an issue with us because we are Christians. 

1 comment:

Adoption Gift Of Love said...

As an adoptive mom and a homeschooler, I am so sorry to hear this. I have 4 letters for you HSLDA. I've heard in our state that you can't homeschool and have foster kids, but I know homeschoolers that have foster kids.

Can you go through a private agency to foster? I know here there is the state agency and then there are private agencies that also do foster care. There are many situations where parents will give children to a Christian agency before they will give them over to the state when they can no longer care for them. We were called about a situation in Indiana, mother was divorced and she got cancer and died. The grandma was unable to care for the children so she gave them to the agency. (sounds harsh to say that she gave them to the agency, but I can't think of any other way to say it.)
Big hugs to you and prayers.